Sharing our stories

When I first started writing here, it was merely to exercise some thoughts and have a personal mini therapeutic heart workout – quite often between my head, heart and God. I found myself wading through the mudcentre of our particular yet-to-be-met-family-desire, with no idea of how things would work out or if they even would… well, in the way that I hoped! Punching at questions like – would I know the love between parent and child? Or get to enjoy the flexibility of lavish love through grandparents eyes? Would not knowing this kind of love change or define the way we lived, or laughed? Would life still feel full and purposeful without……. pitter patter…… (or bicker bicker:-))?

I personally could not control or conclude this one on my own but what really helped was hearing the heart journeys of others: Stories of hope fulfilled, of courage found in spite of loss, stories of joy and purpose even in the pain and of course answered prayers. And so the purpose of my blog has begun to extend from mere personal therapy to sharing more publicly and including the voices and stories of others. It has been amazing how the opportunities to do this have found their way to me. There’s nothing quite like hearing from those who’ve walked it! It was sometimes the simplest of stories (similar to ours) that served as mini hope signposts along the way.

I think that’s what really stood out to me in this story of Sydneys (linked below). Well, apart from the fact that it shines much deserved light on the courageous process that many birth moms go through in choosing adoption. I love that her decision was reinforced by the story of another young girl…. and here she is mere weeks after placing her baby girl into the arms of a chosen family…. simply and powerfully sharing her own story.

“I Love My Daughter – So I Chose To Give Her More”

When I was a sophomore in high school, I sat in a desk in my health class and listened to a girl speak to us about her journey of adoption. She got pregnant at 18 years old, right after she graduated. She continued to tell us that she loved her daughter so much. She couldn’t give her everything she wanted to give her child, so she decided to placed her baby girl for adoption. The heartbreak she went through was unspeakable, and I only got a small glimpse of it.

She talked about it with pride, and I could tell that she loved sharing her story. That girl inspired me. By the time the discussion was over, I was thinking to myself that if I were ever in the middle of a crisis pregnancy, then the best thing for me to do for my baby would be to place her for adoption. I never thought even for a second that I would actually be faced with the same choices.

You can read Sydney’s full story here:

https://adoption.com/sydney-story-i-love-daughter-chose-give-more

So heres to sharing more of our hearts and lives, you just never know the directional impact it may have on someone! If you have an adoption related story you would like me to share, pop an email to everydayiswritten@gmail.com